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Tough is Not Enough

How a resilient mindset can overcome hardship

Published by Brolga Publishing
Distributed by Simon & Schuster

About The Book

My story is not just the story of my boxing career. In fact, boxing is only a very small part of it.
I wrote my story to share my perspective of what it is like to be controlled by a need for perfection.
I wanted to be a boxing world champion. I wanted to be noticed. I wanted to be known. I put expectations of perfection on myself and over time, this obsession blinded me to reality and brought me down into a dark hole of depression.
I suppose I’d never really got over my fear of fighting. I wasn’t scared of being hit – far from it – I was scared to lose and scared to let anyone down. I trained hard and did everything to the best of my ability but I was constantly worried about disappointing the people who supported me. I put unrealistic expectations on myself.
When I realised I would never achieve my dream of becoming a boxing world champion, I was devastated.
But I’m one of the fortunate ones. I overcame the torment my mind put me through. It wasn’t easy and there were many false starts yet I did it. I now understand that achieving one goal is only a small part of life when you compare it to the bigger picture.
These are the lessons I’ve learnt. If I did it – you can too!

About The Author

Stephen ‘Tough is Not Enough’ Lovett has lived and breathed boxing for most of his life. Introduced to the sport by his grandfather, he attended his first training session at the age of thirteen, gloved up for his maiden fight as an amateur when he was sixteen and was accepted into the Australian Institute of Sport elite program soon after. By the time he was twenty-five, Stephen had turned pro and was living and training in Houston, Texas. Hard work and determined focus comes at a price though; Stephen’s price was his mental health – and this is where his real story begins and ends.

Stephen has worked as a fitness instructor and coach, with Certificate III and IV qualifications, and now works as a stonemason in Canberra. He completed his secondary schooling in Cowra but ‘academia’ is not ‘thing’. However, he felt compelled to write his story to show the public, that it can be harmful to your health to be so focused and driven by one aspect of your life. All I wanted was to be “known” for being a champion boxer, I wanted to be special, I wanted people to look at me and say he made it. I didn’t ‘make it’ and I missed out on a lot in life because of this one focus, I lost special relationships because all I cared about was ‘making it’.

Today, he lives in Canberra with his wife and three-year-old son. He has recently made the difficult decision to officially retire as a boxer.

Product Details

  • Publisher: Brolga Publishing (October 2, 2024)
  • Length: 240 pages
  • ISBN13: 9780648612056

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